On Bouncing Back

We all go through it. The bad days, the crummy moods, the hard times. It’s normal and a part of life. After all, it’s not all rainbows and butterflies. However, the fact that it’s normal doesn’t make it any less sucky while you’re going through it!

Confession: I’ve been in a bit of a slump lately. And while I am aware this is a normal thing, I don’t like it. Not one bit. The best thing I can do for myself when I notice I am feeling down is to get into action so that I can speed up the bouncing back process. Here are some things that help me when I’m going throughΒ it,Β all of it, and I hope that they help you too.

Plan A Trip

What’s more exciting than the thought of an adventure? Umm…nothing! Planning a trip will give you something to look forward to, which is a natural mood enhancer. I am taking my own advice and am planning a trip for Thanksgiving weekend to visit my best friend, and it has been a great way for me to get out of my own head and think positively. She’s my person, and I cannot wait to be reunited. πŸ™‚

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Request Reinforcement

Speaking of best friends, times like these are the perfect opportunity to let them do what they do best- show up for you. Talk about how you are feeling with them. Allow them to support you. Allow yourself to be cared for. When you are feeling less than stellar, they will be the champions for your cause and reinforce that superstar that you really are. Plus, they are the surest ones to make you laugh when you need it the most.

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Binge Watch Your Favorite Shows

Go ahead, re-watch all nine seasons of Grey’s Anatomy on Netflix. We’ve all been there. Technically, you don’t even need to be in a slump to do this, because it can just feel so damn good to lay around and be endlessly entertained by your favorite plot lines and characters. That’s what they are there for, to make you feel better.Β Β 

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Treat Yo’Self

Go shopping. Get your nails done. Eat a tub of ice cream for dinner. Not that I’ve done that recently or anything. Sleep in. Take a day off. Whatever it is that brings you a little bit of enjoyment and comfort, do it! Be kind to yourself and don’t feel guilty about it, even for a second. A little splurging is well deserved.

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Be Patient

It takes time to bounce back. It is important to remember to be kind to yourself during the process, and to allow yourself room to experience the emotions you are feeling. There is no set amount of time for how long it will take you to get over something, so just be patient and have faith.Β It will happen.

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Whatever it is that you are experiencing, it is completely and 100% true that this too shall pass. Before you know it, you will be back to your old bouncy self. I promise.

What do you do to brighten your mood when you are feeling down?

xoxo

Sarah

Β *All photos are via Pinterest

On Taking the Bus

Source: SD MTS Website

In October of last year, I sold my car and began the adventure of taking public transportation. It was an experience that humbled me, challenged me, taught me patience, and at other times completely broke me down. Some days, I did not think I could stomach commuting two hours each way, to and from work, one minute longer.

I fought back tears, foul moods, and a complete lack of personal space on a daily basis. I learned to accept that it would take me an inordinate amount of time to get just about anywhere. And finally, I embraced getting lost; in an array of books, Pandora radio, and the inspiration to write.

I experienced an awful lot, about the crazy thing that is human behavior and being immersed into a new world. While devoid of the means of my own personal vehicle, I started collecting tidbits and memories of my travels. Here is what I learned:

Some people don’t bathe as often as they should.

It is absolutely baffling how a person’s own staggering body odor doesn’t offend them. The rest of the bus is certainly affected. Like really, how do you deal with your own stench all day?

Everybody, regardless of age/social status/gender/race, will give up their seat for someone in need; such as an elderly or handicapped person.

This, for a brief period of time, makes you forget all of the other horrors of riding the bus. Enjoy the moment, but don’t let your guard down.

People are oblivious to social cues.

Never forget your headphones. 9 times out of 10, people will ignore your headphones and talk your ear off anyway.

It is a game of strategy.

You have to know, through the course of the route you are taking, who will be sitting where. Forget just taking a seat, you have to strategize. Sit too near the front, you may have to stand for the aforementioned elderly or disabled person. Then you are standing the rest of the way with people’s armpits in your face. Sit too close to the back, and it’s like you’ve been transported to the Wild Wild West. Since the back is furthest from the bus driver’s watching eye, it is a breeding ground for mischief. Complete anarchy. Winning move: sit close to the middle of the bus with your purse or bag on the seat by the window. This way no-one can grab or sit on your purse, and you can slide over to make room for a suitable bus mate (should you spot one). Suitable bus mates are like unicorns; rare, magical, and their existence has yet to be proven.

Do not, under any circumstance, make eye contact.

Eye contact is a sign that you want to communicate. Trust me, you DO NOT want to communicate.

On the bus schedule:

Buses run every 15-30 minutes, give or take 10 minutes. Except on the day you are running 2 minutes late, on that day the bus WILL leave on time.

Assume no-one is of sound mind.

This is for your own good. Safety first. Trust only yourself.

In order of riding comfort, the San Diego Transit System is ranked as follows:

Coaster or Amtrak > Trolley > Bus

In all seriousness, being dependent on public transportation taught me many valuable lessons that I will not soon forget. I encourage anyone to embrace a challenge of this size any time it is presented, because it will help shape you into a better person.

xoxo

Sarah

*Photo courtesy of Bus Ride.

26 Things I Learned at Twenty-Six

1. Cultivating a better sense of self-not everybody’s doing it.Β Not everybody gets more mature, Β driven, or self-aware as they grow older. Don’t waste your time on these people, there’s too many awesome ones to surround yourself with.

2. Sometimes you’ll hate your day job. Don’t give up.

3. Follow your passions. They are the surest source of true joy, and will never lead you astray. Unless your passions are boozing and drugging- find something that doesn’t involve numbing yourself to the world around you.

4. Accept your past. You can’t change it, you can’t will it away, and you certainly can’t continue apologizing for it. Love your past, it helps shape you into the amazing person you are becoming.

5. It’s not bad to have lots of acquaintances, as long as you’re okay with those acquaintances not showing up for you.Β Acquaintances are for networking, best friends are for showing up. Just be sure to keep the two straight.

6. Married by thirty? Maybe. If not-it’s not the end of the world.

7. Kids by thirty? Forget it. I won’t be done with being selfish by then.

8. And that reminds me…the idea of having children is no longer automatic.Β Becoming a mother has always been an assumed part of my life plan, but I’ve come to realize it’s not a necessity at this point.Β I would love to have them, but I am not planning my life around a ticking biological clock.

9. Your words don’t determine who you are, your actions do.Β However, be sure to keep your words kind.

10. If you don’t want to eat the whole tub of ice cream, just don’t buy it. Quit deluding yourself that you’ll have any amount of self-control once you have that sucker home alone.

11. Sunday funday is no longer defined by bottomless mimosas. It’s beach days, quality time with loved ones, and Netflix marathons.

12. Your bed is an investment. Forget old pillows and crappy mattresses, ain’t nobody got time for that when you’re working a 50+ hour work week. Take a note from me and double up on that mattress topper!

13. You constantly question your purpose. My therapist tells me that’s normal. We’ll go with that.

14. Meditating is healing. It’s also freaking hard. Trying to sit still for ten minutes or more with a clear head is next to impossible. On the list of “things to work on” for twenty-seven.

15. Superficial attraction vs. actual attraction to a person- it’s different and it matters.

16. You’ll start to care less about what others think of you. Which means you’ve learned to accept yourself. Appreciate this.

17. You have to date a lot of the wrong people to know when you’ve found the right one. Still haven’t found the right one, but I must be getting close with all the wrong ones I’ve gone through!

18. Living with two girls or more is hell. Living with only one is a much better dynamic.

19. A good roommate situation is vital to happy living.Β Sometimes, you may end up in living situations that suck the life out of you. Eliminate this as soon as possible. Having a respectful, kind roommate makes your life infinitely better.

20. Juice. It’s no longer cute, or acceptable, to ignore your body’s need for nutrients and balance. An unhealthy diet is also detrimental to the aging process. Juicing is a great way to give your system the boost it needs- any gal on the go can appreciate this.

21. Your parents really are the coolest and best people in your life. Well, maybe not always the coolest. But they are always there for you, giving unconditional love and support when you need it the most. I love you, Mom.

22. Failing teaches you your strength. There’s nothing like letting yourself down in a spectacular way to truly learn the hardest lessons. Keep it up, it’s the best way to grow.

23. Live minimally, splurge occasionally. Occasionally does not equal daily. This applies to shopping, manicures/pedicures, food, vacations, and dessert. Go ahead and have seconds, or thirds, of the birthday cake.

24. The importance of love, kindness, and understanding. Learning to give rather than take these things will make you a better everything, and lead to a happier you.

25. Act like a fly on the wall. I’m an emotional person, and this doesn’t always lead to me reacting in the best way. I’ve found that if I’m in a stressful situation, and I imagine myself as a fly on the wall, I can get some distance from it and act in a much more logical (and dignified) manner.

26. Most of the time you have no flipping idea what you are doing. Just roll with it. You’re exactly where you’re supposed to be. That’s what your twenties are meant for, figuring it all out.

Twenty-six was good to me. I think twenty-seven is going to be even better.

Do you have any lessons you’ve learned in your twenties or beyond? I would love to hear about them!

xoxo

Sarah